GUESS WHAT?!?

Guess what’s happening again, LOL.

We are moving! This time I am a working mom of 4 and going to be getting the house ready for listing, then viewings, and of course moving.

I thought I would do posts on different stages of this process.

Being a working mom now and just starting to figure out a schedule for my blog postings, I want to share still because I love to, but I don’t have the same time for it like before. With my returning to blogging I still want to put all effort into it, for a good read, useful tips, etc… so I will be taking lots pictures and maybe even a video here and there.

We are so excited to have a backyard again (which this current house, doesn’t have) I am hoping that the excitement part will help with the stress of preparing our current house for sale & viewings. I am not sure about you, but viewings stress me out & more so now with the thought of the up keep of having everything perfect with me working & four kids.

So, I am thinking of sharing everything  I do to get the house ready for sale. Then to getting ready for the ongoing viewing part of the process and then moving. I am also thinking of sharing the move, cleaning, unpacking etc… Let me know if you are interested in that. Now I am no pro, but I have moved a few times and would like to share tips, methods, etc…. that have worked for us.

By the time you read this, we have sold our current home & I am now working on the getting ready to Move Process which I will be sharing with you all.

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BLOG CHANGES

Hi all,

I wanted to share some of my blog changes you will be seeing. I am updating my current blog to reflect me now. I will be keeping the same URL as it is apart of me and it is originally how I created my brand and my blog.

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As you may know, I am no longer a stay-at-home-mom (you can see that post here), I am now a working mom of four and with many changes in my life and routines, but I still have the same passion for blogging and sharing my stories with you. I just felt that my current names, ex:Housewife_mom and stay-at-home-mom of 4 no longer reflects me. I have a big passion for blogging and will continue to blog and share my life with you all and of course pretty much the same content. I have been thinking of changes to my blog/social media names for a while about late December 2016 early January 2017. I wanted to insure the change would still reflect me and continue to grow with me as I continue my journey in blogging. I have decided to go with “My Life Stories” as it is perfect to reflect my blog and me. Most of my content is about my life, routines, kids, etc…. I feel that “My Life Stories” is the perfect fit and I am able to continue my journey with my blog for many years to come under that name as I am not limited to it. I will be able to grow and share just about everything. One day I may return to being a stay-at-home-mom and feel that My Life Stories still fits that.

If you want to start a blog, one tip I learned from my journey is when selecting your URL &/or blog name, try to come up with a name that is not limited and can grow with your blog for many years. I am no pro, but just wanted to share that tip that I learned thru my blogging years.

Some fun is in the works, I am also in the process of changing my logo and blog look, so stay tuned. I am also thinking of doing some video content. If you would like to share what you want to see in the future comment below and leave your video ideas.

 

If you would like to share any ideas for a logo or new blog look, comment below or email me at realhousewifeandmom@gmail.com. I would love to hear tips & ideas from you all.

 

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BALANCE & SELF CARE

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Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that it feels like your going to crash?

 

I am going thru that feeling, I am still learning to balance life since returning to the working field, being a working mom of four, keeping up with the house, and a puppy.

I love my job, and I am not going to give it up, I just been finding that I am really juggling things and pushing things that I love to do aside for lots of reasons. When I finally get time to do my hobbies or go get that manicure I am too tired and take laying down option instead. I really need to change things up and go back to taking time to do me.

I use to have a routine where I would go for coffee every so often with friends and just relax, talk, enjoy laughs, etc… I would also take the time to go for a walk, get my car detailed, read a book, get a mani & pedi, and just give me sometime to re-charge. Now that sometime is going to bed early. I am a morning person so I go go go in the morning and during the day, come about 5pm and I am done. I use to be able just to relax for half hr and get back to it, but not lately. I am so overwhelmed at this moment that all I want to do is sleep, feels like I have no balance and always fitting things in here and there to get done instead of taking the time for it and even enjoying it. I do go thru this feeling time to time and do manage to get out of it, I thought I would share this with you all because I know life is hard and we as moms try to do everything. We take so much time for everyone else but ourselves. We all need to learn to take care of  “Us” and make that a priority. We need to do things we love and want too as well. Taking care of myself I use to feel guilty, ex. going for a coffee with my friends and leaving hubby to do the kids bedtime, going for a mani and pedi etc…. There is nothing to feel guilty about when taking the time to do something for yourself or take that break away. In fact, I believe it makes us better. I know that when I fit more breaks in I feel better, more refreshed, & able to handle more stressful times or even just those moments.
Now and days there is a lot of judgement on how a mom “should be or do”. It’s unfair& untrue, let me tell you that I use to need a break from my 2 younger kids when they were under 2 years old and I use to drive to Tim Horton’s, get a coffee and drive around with loud music and just unwind. Even something simple like that worked miracles with my mood and when I returned home I was so much refreshed. I use to get comments like; what do you mean you do that?, So you leave to give yourself “Me time”? with looks on their faces like I was the worst mom ever! But guess what I wasn’t and still am not! I am a better mom to my kids for fitting those times for myself and allowing myself to do something I love or enjoy and when I return I am refreshed and there ready as always.

Now tho, being a working mom of four & a puppy I am finding less time to take that time for me and more like I am just pushing thru. I feel like I am burning out and I really need to figure out balance. I just take too much on my plate, I like my kids taken care of, a clean house, etc…… I need to spread it out and learn that on the weekends if I don’t get it all done, it’s ok (I really need to accept that) I think once I do and once I start taking my time for me again I will come out of this funk.

I also believe this has come up at this time in my life as I was use to being a stay-at-home-mom and this is the first summer as me being a working mom. I was tracking things before school was out to insure that the kids had things to do and still having fun times while I am at work. Insuring that our deep freezer was packed with easy food in case times where the meal provided wasn’t everyone’s choice. Where last summer it was hard having all 4 kids at home all day, but it was easier to balance and plan things to do with the kids and still being able to handle the everyday house load, appointments, play dates and so fourth. Now our family outings can only be planned for the weekends and we still need to be on tight routines as we need to go to work in the morning during the week. Being a stay-at-home-mom of course is a lot of work as well, I am not down playing that, but for me I found that I was able to balance more things without feeling overwhelmed and still had time to fit in “Me time”.

Another role in this could be that at times my kids have said they want me to go back to being a stay-at-home-mom. Reality is tho aside from Summer break and the little PA Days, March break, & Christmas break all of my kids are in full day school. So, what would I do all day everyday alone at home? Ya it would be great at times, get get groceries, cleaning, etc… all done with no kids, but everyday? When my youngest was 1 years old I use to say “when all kids are in school, I am going to take a year or 2 off for me and do whatever I want” well before Madison (my youngest) was going to start school I was already thinking after I get all things that I have wanted to do off the list and all organized and relaxed what will I do after? Everyday? So, that’s when I was thinking of maybe going to school again and taking a course or something. Maybe working even part-time. I then got an offer to return to my job that I left 6-7 years ago and I could work around my kids school time and I jumped at it. I thought why not, let’s try and if it doesn’t work out then no harm, but if I didn’t take the jump I would of thought about that chance I didn’t take. I also get a great feeling of independence working and have a great boss.

As of today, I am going to work on this goal and with a new mind set to get balance and letting go of the not so important tasks. It will get done sometime, if not today another day and that’s okay.

 

Do you ever feel like this? What do you do to help with it? What are something you do for “Me time”? I would love to hear feedback from you so please comment below and share with me.

TIPS FOR DE-CLUTTERING

I thought I would share my tips with you for de-cluttering, I always ask myself questions when I am stuck on an item to let go of.

  1. When is the last time I wore it?
  2. Will I ever wear it again?
  3. How many do I have of this? (Same or similar)
  4. How often do we use it?
  5. Is there a use for it?
  6. Why am I keeping this?

Of course when not in doubt no need to ask myself these questions, I use it for when I am stuck on letting go or keeping something.

For example, I use to have everything from baby/toddler years for all 4 of my kids. Boxes and boxes full stored in the basement. I am a mom of 4, so let me tell you there where way too many boxes taking up space that really didn’t need to. Yes, I still have boxes (containers), but they are now down to one container per child. In each of those boxes are things I could really not let go of, memories, special moments, & outfits of special moments. I also kept one outfit that I knew would not go out of style that maybe one day they would like to take for their own baby. There is also their favorite baby stuffy, 1 only. Why I was keeping everything I have no idea, maybe I was not ready to let go of it. So, from over 20 boxes I am down to 4 clear containers with lids, 1 for each child. I feel good about it, lots of freed up space, most importantly I know everything in each bin is important and I always have easy access to them now.

I use these questions all the time for my clothing items, as for some reason I always hold on to items/pieces I think I will use again, when truth be told I don’t. These questions actually help me let go quicker now.
The other area of my home I need these questions for in order to get the ball rolling in purging is my kitchen & party supply space. I always think “Oh what if I need this when we have a get together or large number of people for a party” truth on that is yes there are some things required and actually used, but not everything. Honestly, I have changed to white dishes and severing pieces instead of what I use to have. White goes with every theme & color and never goes out of style. Prior to getting the white dishes I let go of the items I didn’t need/want and held onto the ones I use and wanted to replace with white ones. Once I found those pieces in white, I let go of the others right away.

What are some of your De-cluttering tips/questions? I would love to hear them so comment below.

How To Be More Productive 

Hi friends,

Thought I would share my tips that help be be more productive to get things done. These especially help me on those crazy does where I don’t have a lot of time to work with. It also helps me on those “lazy days” when you really don’t want to get moving.

  1. Lists-make a list of must do’s, not everything you want to do but of the things that are top priority. 
  2. No distractions, this is a big one. We waste alot of time checking our phones and once we pick it up to check one thing it doesn’t end there. Next thing an 1 hr is wasted. No other electronics either, as something might be interesting and we will stop to watch.
  3. Have routines in place (ex: morning and evening) of chores so you don’t feel overwhelmed when you need to take care of those “must dos” 
  4. On the days you have things you must get done, focus on only those until they are done. If you have time once completing those you can then do something else you would like to do.
  5. Have everyone in your family help thru out the day with chores. (Ex. Gets the kids to take out the trash at the end of the day, get everyone to load the dishwasher of any dishes they use, etc..) if everything is on you alone you will get very overwhelmed 
  6. Get a planner- now it doesn’t have to be expensive a simple one from the dollar store, whatever planner works for you. Plan everything in it, work days, kids events, appt, bills, to do’s. Everything all in one place. Review and plan every night and in the morning take a quick glance at it. This will also help you to not over do yourself. You can see how busy a day is ahead of time and you can change a to do or a list of things around to when it works for you.
  7. Make a list of things you want to do or get to and on less busy days you can go to the list and get a few things done or even just one and even if it’s just one off the list it’s still awesome and that’s one thing off the list. 

These are a few tips that help me stay on track. Since I started working I was over doing things and feeling like I wasn’t getting a hang of things around the house or errands because time was not enough. Now I plan accordingly and a morning & evening routine also help me sooooo much. Morning and evening routines have helped me way before I was even a working mom. I also swear by my planner, a family of 6 and now a puppy, there is always something and could be so easy to lose track of.

Do you have any tips or/& advice you would like to share with us? Comment below I would love to hear them.

Moving Series: Getting Your House Ready Part:2

Hello Again,

Now that part 1 has been completed, lets move onto Part 2.

Time to work on those projects. If you want to hire someone to do the work, you should get quotes from different companies as soon as you have made your list in Part 1 of this series. The reason why is so that no time is wasted and they (the company/person you hire) are ready to start once you are ready for this step.

Now if you are handy, your partner, or a family/friend then you can start these tasks when you are ready. I would leave 2-3 weeks (for non-large projects) ahead of time before the sale sign so that you are not rushing & stressing. If it’s not you personally who is doing the work, take this time to pack some more. Not only will this help with clearing things up, it saves you time in the end when trying to pack for the move. You could also tackle a “Go Thru” pile that is waiting for attention. You don’t want to be moving junk or trash with you.

Another area you should have marked down is the yard, front and back. Yard work is a lot of work, you don’t want to leave it for last minute. The front of your home is what buyers see first as they pull up to view your home. Planting some nice flowers, insuring the grass is cut and weeds are pulled are very important. You don’t have to break the budget, you can add a few inexpensive flowers to your garden for some color and a pot of flowers to your porch (of course this applies if your not selling in the winter). You also want to insure your porch & front door is always clean. Backyard (again if not in winter months) Insure the grass is cut and weeds are pulled. Also, if you have a pet using an area of your backyard for potty you will want to insure that is kept up with. If you don’t have a garden you do not need to create one. A simple pot of flowers on your patio set or by the back door will add prettiness. If you are selling in the winter, insure walk way, porch, & driveway to your home are shoveled and salted.

Your foyer is another first impression of your home, insure it is clean and clutter free.

Also, now is the time to start planning a routine for mornings, evenings/night for the up keep of your home during sale time. I needed one in place as with four kids, and working I can’t leave the house without it being ready and presentable for a viewing that may happen that day. The last thing you want is getting a call for a viewing and not having a enough time to get the house ready or being stuck at work, an appointment, etc… and not being able to return home in time to tackle something before the viewing.

Once your projects are completed it is time to move on to the next step. I will be sharing what I do every morning & evening without fail during my home sale time. Stay tuned for that.

If you have any tips that you would like to share or experiences please comment below. I am always looking for tips and ideas to add.

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Moving Series: Part 1

Review: Dollar Tree Window Clean

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This product from Dollar Tree is amazing.

 

I do still love my Onmicloth I must say, but I love testing new products out. I was watching TheUnfrumphyMommyLife youtube video (check out her channel here) I can’t remember which video it is where she talks about this product, but her channel is great and she has lots of cleaning videos up (and many others) and you will see this window cleaner product in them and she loves it. So, the next time I visited The Dollar Tree (now I live in Canada so not everything I see that the States stores get, we don’t always have the same items or products) I found it and decided to try it out.

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I must say I was pretty impressed with it. Its does a great job and leaves no streaks and no film at all, it also leaves a great shine. I also love that it is Ammonia Free. I have tested it on glass surfaces, windows,  mirrors and love it! Now there is a smell of vinegar to it, but to me anyways it is not strong, but you do smell it when spraying. It’s a great product that is not highly priced, I paid $1.25 and am amazed at how well it works and cleans. I now have a bottle always on hand just in case. I also used it on glass shower doors, where I live we have hard water it leave marks on glass which this product removes and leaves the glass shiny. I have a puppy who hates the crate and always makes a mess in there, so I have used it to clean the crate and love it so much that I now use it to clean the dog crate at least once a week with it.

I am a regular user of my Omnicloth, which you can read my review on it here. At times my cloths are in the washer and with 4 kids and a puppy I love that I have this product to use as my backup.

I gave up on Windex because it was always leaving streaks and a bit of a film, I hated that. Made everything look like it was not properly clean. Windex isn’t cheap either for something that doesn’t work great.

 

This is not a sponsored post, I just love sharing with you all products that work.